Time To Talk

Today’s article is actually a throw back blog article – first posted  in 2015 – in honour of today being Time To Talk day. In 2015 I tried to talk to my counsellor who didn’t turn up. Fast forward to 2018 and I was talking to my colleagues about mental health over a coffee (fighting over the jammie dodgers). However you do it, please just remember to talk.

Time to Talk, February 2015
Today has been #timetotalk day, an initiative to get people talking about mental health.

Somewhat ironic then that I had a counselling session at 8.30 this morning and my counsellor didn’t show up. Clearly it was not my time to talk to her, or her to me in fact. The first time we met she didn’t have any tissues, or in fact a chair for me to sit on. It hasn’t been plain sailing.

All in all it’s a good thing I’m in a better place right now. I dealt with it by telling the receptionist I “had commitments” and “couldn’t wait”, rather than launching into a sobbing diatribe about how terrible the morning had been so far, the fact I hadn’t even had a cup of tea yet and that my house currently resembles a germ factory. All true (apart from the need to cry, hooray!)

Not a great start but I coped because I’m in a good place at the minute (mentally at least) And when I feel like this it’s hard to remember how bad I felt before. But it is important to remember and it’s important to talk about mental health. Especially today.

I think that many people who have mental health problems can suffer greatly from the feeling that they have failed in some way. I know I certainly did. In my first session my counsellor said there were an awful lot of “shoulds” in how I felt. I should be able to cope. I should be a better mum. I should have a clean house. I should be able to remember stuff I learned for GCSE. I should be thinner, fitter, more girly, happier, taller. Well maybe not the last one although it would be nice.

That’s why I want people to talk about their mental health. I want people to hear that they haven’t failed. That they aren’t alone. That billions of people go through this. And most importantly that there are people who will be there for them.

Some people don’t find talking about this kind of thing easy. I do (when I’m well anyway), but lots of people don’t. And you know what, that’s ok. You don’t have to find out the details. But if you do nothing else just send a text. You know that person you have an inkling about? Say hello. Send an email, text or picture of an otter. Give them a quick squeeze in the playground. Buy them a little something. Go round with a packet of fig rolls. It doesn’t really matter, just make a small connection. Chances are even if they don’t respond joyfully on the outside it has meant the world to them in a time when every day feels tough.

Thank you.

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